Consultancy and Training: Understanding Sexual Offending and Helping Sexual Abuse Victims
Rob Kelly is able to provide professionals, agencies or companies, who work with sexual offenders or victims of sexual abuse, with in depth consultancy services or training around the area of understanding sexual offending and how to help sexual abuse victims.
Rob Kelly is a hypnotherapist and trainer who has helped over two thousand victims of sexual abuse, over a twenty year period. His own professional training has been provided by nationally recognised experts including The Lucy Faithful Foundation, and Ray Wyre and Associates.
Over the years Rob has been consulted on many ocasions to provide a professional consultancy service to
individuals and professional agencies including the Police, Social
Services, Television and Radio, and many professionals
in the medical and healthcare professions.
If you wish to arrange training or consultancy services tailored towards your particular needs then please contact Rob on 07971 006747 or e-mail him at rob@rck.net.
Rob is also director of training for the IAPH (International Assocition of Pure Hypnoanalysts) and runs many seminars and training courses for therapists and other professionals.
Please click here if you would like more information on Rob's 2 day course on Understanding and Helping Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Rape.
Rob additionally provides very successful therapeutic interventions for individuals.
Please click here if you are looking for help after being sexually assaulted or abused.
What specific areas can consultancy or training within the field of understanding sexual offending and helping sexual abuse victims cover?
Rob can provide you with a good working knowledge and understanding of the issues surrounding Sexual Abuse; from the victim’s, perpetrator's and therapeutic perspectives.
"The division that exists between those who work with offenders and those who work with victims is an artificial one. It is as essential for those who work with offenders to understand victim behaviour and the impact of offending upon victims, as it is for those who work with victim/survivors to understand how the offender operates to control his victim, and how he abuses within the community."
Ray Wyre (1998)
Some of the specific areas Rob can provide training and consultancy within include:
Definitions of abuse
- Physical
- Emotional
- Neglect
- Sexual
Types of abuse
- Individual abuse on child/ren within biological family
- Individual abuse on child/ren belonging to step family
- Inter-generational incest
- Extended individual extra-familiar
- Extended inter-generational incest
- Extended co-operate inter-generational incest (Chaotic boundaries)
- Individual abusing child/ren through employment access
- Linear abuse
- Sex rings
- Religious cult abuse
- Ritual abuse
Different types of abuser
Profiling the sexual offender. Why men (mostly) rape and abuse women and children? How do the types of abuser differ? How does an abuser choose, groom and abuse his victims?
- Anger rapist
- Sexual rapist
- Sociopathic rapist
- Anger excitation rapist
- Anger sadistic
- Over controlled sadistic
- Serial Rapist
- Fixated paedophile
- Inadequate paedophile
- Inadequate fixated paedophile
- Hebephile
- Natural father anger motivated incest
Female offenders
Why do women abuse? What types of female abuser are there?
- Polyincestuous abuser
- Single parent abuser
- Psychotic abuser
- Adolescent abuser
- Non-custodial abuser
The 'Offender Cycle'
- Distorted thinking, normalisation
- Pro-Offending Behaviour/ Thinking
- Internal Inhibitors
- What triggers an assault?
- Fantasy rehearsal
- Targeting
- Grooming
- Offending
- Reinforcement
- Guilt and fear
- Pushing away guilt and fear
What is Grooming?
- Why it is now a criminal offence?
- What purpose does it serve?
- Different experiences of grooming
- The 'favourite uncle' syndrome
- Collusion Institutionalised grooming (church, social work, teaching, police)
- How grooming will impact upon any later attempts to resolve conflict surrounding the abuse (i.e. therapy)
Understanding victims of sexual abuse
- How it feels to be abused?
- What defence mechanisms and symptoms can be produced by abuse?
- Signs & Symptoms of abuse
- Fear/Denial/Guilt/Shame Dissociation & Resistance
- Understanding 'Victimology'
- Repression & Survival .........Is there a 'Victim Cycle'?
- Why is it that 99% of abusers are victims, and yet very few victims become abusers?
Resilience after abuse
"Researchers have explained resilience in terms of hardiness, and proposed that hardy individuals have a strong commitment to self, are willing to take action and to deal with problems, have a positive attitude toward their environment, hold a strong sense of purpose, and develop a strong internal locus of control which enables them to see life's obstacles as challenges that can be overcome."
Hebert (1996)
"Resilient individuals are those who, despite severe hardships and the presence of at-risk factors, develop characteristics and coping skills that enable them to succeed in life."
McMillan and Reed (1994)
- What makes some abused children resilient?
- Individual attributes
- Family protective factors
- School and community protective factors
- Relationships
Helping an abused client
- How to help an abuse 'victim' to take control of their life and live happily
- Which interventions work best and quickest?
Dear Rob
I cannot believe that something so horrible, and difficult to
comprehend, was resolved so easily with you - in just one session
You made is so easy for me to to talk about it, and I now feel better than ever. Thank you so much for giving me back my life. After the rape I never thought I would ever be able to feel ‘normal’ again.
Thank you so much 
Clare Bunting, Cambridge
A sociological perspective
- Historical Perspectives
- Cultural Perspectives
Can sex offenders and paedophiles be successfully treated?
- Research in the USA shows that 80% of sex offenders who received no treatment while in prison, re-offend upon their release
How to protect your family from sexual predators
For further information, please contact Rob on 07971 006747 or e-mail him at rob@rck.net.
